Hi, my name is June. I am a Mother, Wife, Sister,
Victim Advocate,
Survivor, Friend and a daughter of God who thinks a sense of humor is mandatory when dealing with life. I have four children who are great kids but far from perfect and I love them with everything I am. I have a good man who loves me and treats me far better than I deserve. My family mean the world to me, those who live close and those far away. I try to treat others kindly even if they are unkind to me. But if you hurt or mess with my loved ones, it will not be pretty. This is why I also choose to believe in Karma.
I share all the things that inspire, inform, support of or simply bring a smile to my face as well as others. Sometimes all you can do is laugh through the hard times, so why not practice and be good at it? Unfortunately, I find myself smiling or laughing when it may not always be appropriate and I am a bit concerned about the rumor that "loud laughter" is not appreciated in Heaven. I can usually find something to laugh about in any circumstance, and that still gets me in a bit of trouble. So do chocolate, fried zucchini and cheese fries.
I am a fiercely loyal friend and count those friends as some of my greatest blessings. I have no patience for mean people, especially those who chose to bully the less fortunate. I am survivor sharing my story and using my voice/blog to help other women dealing with a wide range of issues like abuse, violence and neglect - especially against women & children. I have returned to college to do justice to those causes I hold near and dear to my heart. Do not treat others disrespectfully, do not be cruel or spiteful just because you can, and you and I will not have a problem. After many years and pointless tears, I have found that when you replace what the world tell us is beautiful in a woman, with what God sees in us, that is when we are both beautiful and at peace with ourselves.
I have known sadness and pain so I do all I can to prevent others from experiencing the same. I have a desire from the depth of my soul to do something good with the life I have been given...to take what life hands me- the good and the bad- and use it to bless the lives of others somehow. It's impossible to be perfect but I wont stop trying to be better. I have a testimony of the gospel and I have promised to listen to the promptings and share all the things my heart and spirit knows to be good and true.
And THAT is why I blog. Thanks for visiting :)
Feel free to leave a comment or you can contact me at june.haskell@gmail.com
June Survivor Profile from
Dani Palmer on
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http://www.simplyjune.org/p/i-know-exact-moment-myperception-of.html
http://www.simplyjune.org/p/domestic-violence-junes-story-condensed.html
Hi, my name is June. I am a Mother, Wife, Sister,
Victim Advocate,
Survivor, Friend and a daughter of God who thinks a sense of humor is mandatory when dealing with life. I have four children who are great kids but far from perfect and I love them with everything I am. I have a good man who loves me and treats me far better than I deserve. My family mean the world to me, those who live close and those far away. I try to treat others kindly even if they are unkind to me. But if you hurt or mess with my loved ones, it will not be pretty. This is why I also choose to believe in Karma.
I share all the things that inspire, inform, support of or simply bring a smile to my face as well as others. Sometimes all you can do is laugh through the hard times, so why not practice and be good at it? Unfortunately, I find myself smiling or laughing when it may not always be appropriate and I am a bit concerned about the rumor that "loud laughter" is not appreciated in Heaven. I can usually find something to laugh about in any circumstance, and that still gets me in a bit of trouble. So do chocolate, fried zucchini and cheese fries.
I am a fiercely loyal friend and count those friends as some of my greatest blessings. I have no patience for mean people, especially those who chose to bully the less fortunate. I am survivor sharing my story and using my voice/blog to help other women dealing with a wide range of issues like abuse, violence and neglect - especially against women & children. I have returned to college to do justice to those causes I hold near and dear to my heart. Do not treat others disrespectfully, do not be cruel or spiteful just because you can, and you and I will not have a problem. After many years and pointless tears, I have found that when you replace what the world tell us is beautiful in a woman, with what God sees in us, that is when we are both beautiful and at peace with ourselves.
I have known sadness and pain so I do all I can to prevent others from experiencing the same. I have a desire from the depth of my soul to do something good with the life I have been given...to take what life hands me- the good and the bad- and use it to bless the lives of others somehow. It's impossible to be perfect but I wont stop trying to be better. I have a testimony of the gospel and I have promised to listen to the promptings and share all the things my heart and spirit knows to be good and true.
And THAT is why I blog. Thanks for visiting :)
Feel free to leave a comment or you can contact me at june.haskell@gmail.com
June Survivor Profile from
Dani Palmer on
Vimeo.
http://www.simplyjune.org/p/i-know-exact-moment-myperception-of.html
http://www.simplyjune.org/p/domestic-violence-junes-story-condensed.html
Thank you June for blogging--I truly enjoy what you write
ReplyDeleteDear June - I just finished reading your story, tears are on my cheeks. I'm curious where your father was in all this. Did he know what your grandfather did? Did your mother know what that family you were to 'babysit' for have in mind for you? I assume your mother was abused by your grandfather as well. June, I am 61 years old and although I've never had children, I've had the most powerful maternal instinct from the day I was born, and I'm feeling this oh-so-strongly right now for you. If you were standing here with me now, I would enfold you with love and comfort. You are the sweet, innocent child of God, you always have been, you always will be. To the degree you can see all the people involved that harmed you as wounded themselves rather than guilty, it doesn't condone what they've done, but it will lighten your heart. Precious, precious girl, that's what you are. BTW, you have a beautiful family, so glad you have them.
ReplyDeleteI can't even begin to tell you how much I appreciate your loving comments. They brought tears to my eyes. I often wonder what it would have been like, had I grown up hearing these same words from my own mother.
DeleteMy dad knew everything, he and my mom didn't divorce until many years later. My mom was never abused, at all, by anyone. But, depending on the day she might claim otherwise. This one experience is just the tip of the iceberg. All these years later she is still at it, but she is my mother so I try to remember the good times instead of the bad. I know you are right about needing to see those who hurt us as "wounded themselves" but I am not quite there yet. It's the intent behind her actions. It's hard to forgive and forget when her intent is to cause pain. It's taken me years to feel pity & sadness instead of resentment.
Thankfully, Heavenly Father blessed me with wonderful family, great friends, a strong spirit and women like you who I admire, and look up to. Thanks for being my Mother figure today. If you want the job, you're hired!
I love your blog, but you have ads on the side that flash and make me feel like I am going to have a seizure. And there are usually two of them doing so. It makes it really hard to read, and I seriously LOVE your blog and writing!!!
ReplyDeleteYeah! Thanks so much! I know what you mean about the ad. I haven't seen two going at once...oh man...so sorry, I'm bugged by just one! I've canceled, or at least I tought I had canceled the company ad that flashes. I'll have to go back and double check. Sorry. I know it was annoying - and I'm trying to find a fix. I dont want this blog to end up "Simply Seizures".
DeleteI enjoy your blog too, but the flash ads (and pop-ups) are still going! Some of them contain malware and are blocked by my anti-virus software. It's not my computer, because your website is the only one I have problems on. I really want to keep reading, but it's hard to when every time you click on a page a couple of adds pop up and then I have to shut it down due to malware. Yikes! Good luck finding a fix!
ReplyDeleteUgh!! I'm so sorry! I'm doing a complete scan & all sorts of stuff to figure out what is going on. Again, I am very, very sorry. Please know I will get this fixed.
DeleteI want to let you know that in the past week when I have loaded your page, two times pornographic pop-ups have come up while the page was loading. I don't know what is going on, but if you could check into it I would sure appreciate it. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteI just heard this from two other people. I think we have it sorted. I'm very sorry. I still dont know how or what happened - just that we got a virus or malware or something. Thanks for letting me know. I am horrified you had to see something like that on this site. So sorry.
DeleteI too thank you for sharing your very moving and inspiring story. I keep thinking about it, coming back to it. It's so hard to put this kind of information about yourself "out there," I know... I am a writer and have written dozens of essays and poems about what happened to me, but, so far find it impossible to publish them in any way out of consideration for my very young relatives, and how they would have to look at their elders in a frightening new way, or, have their parents put up walls against me and my family lest their children get "exposed" to this ugly part of our family history. I don't want to bust anyone else's innocent and carefree youths; including my own offspring's. The 'public' doens't usually get to hear these viewpoints, these dilemmas facing abuse survivors. Healing is not something that's all sewn up neatly in a little purse: it's very, very complicated. Other people and careers get dragged in, and decisions we have to make to save ourselves, or somebody else, sometimes play a role in causing undue pain to completely innocent others we really don't want to hurt; lots of decisions over time... and we have to sink ourselves into the mire each time we have to face down another one... and hope we make the best choice for all concerned. It's a lifetime membership I really, really would like to relinquish, and wouldn't we all?
ReplyDeleteI have done my due diligence by informing my siblings about my abuse and the need for them to protect their children from any chance of it happening to them, based on the possibility that I am telling the truth--not requiring them to believe me (no one wants to believe it, of course, including me, so I understand the resistance). Fortunately, all the children seem to have been protected well--maybe that's all they can do to acknowledge to me that they believe me. The important thing, though, was that they protect their kids, not me being beliieved openly (that would be deeply meaningful to me though).
But, here I am, my rich life history has this elephant in the room and I can't write about it without feeling that if I didn't, it would not diminish the sparkle in a lot of youngster's eyes, including my own youngster. I'll sign myself 'Orange Curtains" so you don't have to call me Anonymous. It's a line from one of my poems.
You write beautifully, btw, and I so appreciate that you are actively involved in trying to help the world's trafficked children. Thinking about them is withering... thank you for your strength and courage.
My mother died this past year and I've had a hard time with our relationship never reaching closure. My mother knew that my father, and others, abused us...she just turned the other way. She didn't protect us and often neglected us when she withdrew into her own shell due to deep depression. I've had a hard time being gracious about her problems.
ReplyDeleteNow, I've been disowned by all my family...my father and siblings anyway...because I decided to speak out. I refuse to hide the abuse, neglect, and psychotic behavior anymore. So, I stand with ridicule and painful tongue lashings from the very people I want to help. I discovered after my mother's death that my father continued to rape and abuse her while she was an invalid. The worst part about it, many of my siblings knew about it and did nothing to stop him.
Anyway, I'm doing my part to stop domestic violence as well. We have been a foster family for 3 years. I know what it takes to overcome the abuse. I know what it takes to become not just a survivor...but a "thrivor"! It is hard. It is painful. It takes time and sometimes that time is so hard to wait for. But, I can honestly say that I have found some peace in the past few years.
Hello there, I couldn't find a contact form here but I am hosting a bloggers meetup for bloggers in Utah and I would love id you could come! https://www.facebook.com/events/339306269523820/
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