May 28, 2013

Life Advice

I read this quote by Nilofer Merchant the other day and just loved it.  What great advice! 

'Feed The Eagles And Starve the Turkeys'
--Nilofer Merchant, Founder of Rubicon Consulting 
"When I was 20-something ... I walked into my boss’s office, the division leader ... I told him that I felt like on any given day I was facing a tsunami of things I could pay attention to, and there was no way I could work any harder to make stuff happen. I was asking for more resources, as the answer. And he sat me down as he might one of his many kids and gave me this advice: Feed the Eagles and Starve the Turkeys.  Feed the Eagles. There are only a few things that matter. Know what they are. And place your energy into them. They aren’t always right in front of you so you need to look up and out more. Starve the Turkeys – lots of things are right in front of you … pecking around, making noise, and demanding attention. Because they are right in front of you, it’s easy to pay attention to them most and first. Ignore them. They will actually do fine without you."

So I asked a few friends & Simply June Facebook followers to share some of the best advice they had been given.  Here's some of the responses:

Craig - "Don't correct people when it matters little."

Thomas S. Monson - “The past is behind, learn from it. The future is ahead, prepare for it. The present is here, live it.”
Lisa - Some of the best advice I have ever been given was to trust what people do more than what people say.  

Amy - Never make a serious or permanent decision when you are upset or overly emotional.  

Kay - Nothing ever stays secret so if you dont want the world to know, dont do it.
Sierra - When I was in kindergarten, I was being picked on by some of the boys in my class. My dad told me "boys are idiots, and men are pigs." The next day, I informed my teacher "the boys are being mean to me, but it's ok because I know they're idiots and they're gonna grow up to and be pigs!" She laughed for 20 minutes. This advice will follow me all my life.

Ashley - Alway be yourself and you'll never go wrong !!!

Sara - Choose happiness & joy everyday. Choose to stand in the sunshine and not in the rain. If you don't like how you feel, change your thoughts. If you are having a dark or bad thought, sing a hymn. (I've use this constantly ever since I heard Boyd K. Packer tell it in conference when I was a child.

Kristin - My grandma told me a funny story about when she and my grandfather were engaged at byu. She had just gotten off work and he was supposed to meet her. She started walking and saw him in the distance riding his bike toward the"most ridiculous looking clothing", he had on an Eskimo coat and it was May. She told me she wanted to turn and run the other way. But she loved him, so instead she ran to him. So that was her advice; run TO him. I love it.

Jeff H. ...shut-up and eat your spinach!

Norman Peale - “The way to happiness: Keep your heart free from hate, your mind from worry. Live simply, expect little, give much. Scatter sunshine, forget self, think of others. Try this for a week and you will be surprised.” 

Michael Y. - When I started my apprenticeship I was teamed with a elderly Scottish tradesman who told me that no matter how old you are and how much you actually know, always pay attention to what the most junior around you are saying. You never know everything and you never know you may actually learn something new.

Sommer - To go to WP and get a nice design on an seo optimized theme.

Julie - "Your delusions of grandeur aren't getting you anywhere." I saw this on the wall of a partner at my sister's law firm when I was 17, and it had a huge impact on me. I realized I could be what I wanted to be and have what I wanted but only by working hard-really hard.
Heather - My best advice was lived, not spoken. My mom taught me that there is a song for everything, and that singing can get you through almost anything.

Melody - Breathe. Just breathe.

Lindsey - My lovely father (Brian Haskell) once told me "it is better to be silent and be thought a fool then to open your mouth and remove all doubt" .......thanks dad, feelin the love!

Flint - don't throw water balloons at fat people - because they might think it's a "fat" thing...

Tracy - Always put on a clean pair of underpants before you leave the never know when a bus will hit you. Still trying to work this one out.

Mother Teresa -  “If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and true enemies; succeed anyway.  If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; be honest and frank anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; do good anyway…
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; it was never between you and them anyway.”

Tara - Don't leave you're drink and come back to it later. My mom told me this before my first high school dance.

Jeanne - Remember what brought you together when things get rough.

Susan - It's better to be loving than right!

India - Children are terrorists and we do not negotiate with terrorists. Lol..

What is the best Advice you've been given?


  1. I think I'm going to hang the quote, "Feed the eagles and starve the turkeys," on my living room wall. I need to remember that.

  2. The granny ones win it for me. I'm sure my great grandmother would shudder at some of the food in my house and I love bus/man analogy. Very fun post.

  3. I'm living with terrorists! I think I have Stockholm syndrome. Someone help me.